Intimacy & Molding

A woman only needs one thing to be happy and that's EVERYTHING - D.L. Hughley

Aren't we supposed to be passionate people? What happened to the intimacy in our lives? A lot of people today are in relationships that have no fuel. Meaning people are in relationships, marriages and more with NO INTIMACY, NO PASSION.

According to research, women are no longer the ones refusing sex but rather THE MEN. Apparently, in the bedroom, men are losing their sexual desire for a variety of reasons. What does this tell us? Is there an imbalance between the sexes that results in this or are men simply lacking that sex drive they once had? In marriages and long term relationships, are men losing this interest in their partner because of the accessibility, are women becoming too available for their men that it rids the men of the feeling of longing? 

So what can be done to get this spark back in the bedroom? POST YOUR COMMENTS, LET'S TALK ABOUT IT

So now unto 'ideal' relationships.....

There is a saying that "It's better to stick to the evil you know rather than the angel that you do not know". For this reason, many people often choose to stick to what they know regardless of what it has to offer and work with that because 'there is no point giving someone else what you have worked so hard to mold', but sometimes you need to ask yourself "Is what I molded really worth it?" If its not then you have to walk away. What if God wanted you to mold them to be ideal and 'perfect' for another person and that is all you were meant to do while someone else if molding your partner for you? Unfortunately, some people get this already molded partner and do not recognize it so they push the person away and he/she gets dismantled again and sometimes may never be molded again. But who truly wants to mold a person for someone else's enjoyment? not many. Which brings us to the dilemma, if we hang on are we inherently stealing each other's soulmates? Or do we let go and cut our losses?

NO, WE DON'T CARE BECAUSE WE ARE HOLDING ON.

So that brings me to another question. 'Is it right that we try to mold people or should we just take what we get?', If we do mold, what does MOLDING consist of and when does molding become character assassination? 

My opinion: I believe that molding a person is not wrong because when in new situations, we all inevitably mold ourself within and adapt to situations accordingly and in line with our personality. Molding in my world consists of understanding a person's character and making compromises and sometimes eliminations that are not morally correct. Molding a person is opening yourself up to someone and giving a person the chance to understand you and relate to you, because without a sense of molding people often find it harder to develop a connection. Just my piece.